Research has shown that among the myriad of factors that contribute to the healthy evolvement of your child, your parenting style plays a major role. Four different parenting styles have been consistently identified and all have a unique influence on the development of your child’s morals, goals, problem solving skills, personality and social adjustment. Let’s explore each style and their impact:
- Strict disciplinarian, rely on punishment (or threat of punishment) to control
- Children are expected to obey rules without question
- Authoritarian parents often have high demands of their children however are not responsive or willing to listen to their child’s questions, concerns or (sometimes) emotional needs
The Impact? Children raised in an authoritarian household can be anxious, insecure with peers and react hostilely or defiantly when frustrated. They can lack the social and communication skills needed for leadership and self-esteem. They also can become center-focused on seeking approval from others in regard to their performance and relationships, often associating love with approval.
- Little rules and parents are reluctant to enforce rules
- Often referred to as indulgent parenting
- Act more as a friend than a parent
The Impact? Due to the lack of rules and consequences, children raised in a permissive household can often have trouble understanding how their actions affect others. This affects their ability to manage tasks, keep commitments, and have little boundaries with self-entitlement in their relationships.
- Spend little time with their children, often letting TV and video games occupy them
- Basic needs are met (food and shelter) but otherwise, parent is detached emotionally and lack communication or responsiveness towards their children
- Little to no emotional support and fail to reinforce a family structure
The Impact? An uninvolved household can have damaging effects on children and, at an extreme, this parenting style can become neglectful, a form of child abuse. Children raised in a uninvolved household can have trouble following rules, lack self-control, and have issues with anger. Studies have shown most juvenile offenders come from an uninvolved household.
- A balanced approach to parenting that reflects nurturing, involvement, and encouragement
- Rule and guidelines are established however, parents are more responsive towards their children’s questions, and forgiving when expectations are not met.
- Disciplinary methods are more supportive rather than punitive.
The Impact? Children from authoritative households are often independent, self-confident, cooperative, and exercise self-control. Authoritative parenting fosters the development of healthy morals, social skills, and well-adjusted personalities. Their academic performance is often higher and they are able to engage in healthy fulfilling relationships.
Most of us don’t fall solely in one parenting style however, which style do you think you most often identify with? Would you like more information on tips and tools for becoming a more authoritative parent? We here at Valencia Relationship Institute would be happy to find the right therapist for you to assist with this. Give us a call at 661-259-8200 for a free phone consultation today.